A few days ago I posted the following to my Facebook page. I rarely post deeply real things there. People call it “Vaguebook,” for good reason…but in this instance I have had enough and gave in to the temptation to be deeply real and a bit aggressive in my post.
Interestingly the feedback in the comments section was overwhelmingly positive. Some folks even PMed to ask if they might share it privately.
I am choosing to share this on my blog so that I can remember this–the need so many of us have for a powerful response, the need for fire rather than water. We need the cleansing flame sometimes. It is simply true.
I’m posting a link to this article for the many who believe that my family or I owe them something simply because my father/my children’s grandfather has a lot of money. He does. And we are often materially blessed by this abundance. It is also true that my kids ALL work, often more than one job. Some are or have been in college while working more than one job. They pay their bills, take care of their pets, volunteer to help the world by spending time or donating earnings, and are responsible human beings in all of the ways that matter.
As a mother, I have resisted creating a post to this effect for a long time. We are, however, in a situation where one of my children is being threatened *repeatedly* by an ex-lover who believes we owe something due to the miracle of lineage. I see that poverty consciousness has been carried through this person’s lineage and is the root of these repeated attacks.
Sometimes the key to ‘helping’ someone is through irritating them enough to make them think about something they don’t want to look at.
“Anytime we repetitively feel that there is not enough of “this or that”, it forms a chemical rut of impoverished thinking in our body-mind which depletes our energy, manifesting vibration, and financial outlook on life. Every time this lacking feeling is regurgitated it creates mini “poverty attacks” in the inner world, which eventually manifest into physically lacking finances on the outer world.”
One friend left this beautiful quote in the comments:
One of the quotes that guides my personal compass, 100% true and all you ever need to remember, IMHO.
Keeping quiet, taking the abuse, holding our tongues…these are all shadow pieces that Patriarchy has taught women and I completely and utterly reject them. I will not hold my tongue (or fingers!), I will not be a nice girl, I will not act like kindness is the correct response to abuse.
The post is worded defensively so that it is readable to those who think differently that I/we do. I do believe, in fact, that I owe something to society thanks to my privilege!
Anyway, this is where my shadow dance has taken me, personally, with this situation. Thee are deeper layers, certainly, but I’m still peeling back this very thick one.