There is a lot of us-vs-them mentality going on now. There are those who believe we should have and continue to have the right to keep and bear arms. There are those who believe that times have changed, that too much violence is happening, that too many innocents are dying.
I have news. There is no ‘us’ and there is no ‘them’. We are all one. We are all the I AM presence of Divinity. We are the living, breathing, manifestations of the Creator of All.
If you can step away from the feed, from the news you are fed, and look at your co-workers and your neighbors, the people you see at the convenience store and those you see at the football game and those who you see at church and think about how many of them might be ‘pro’ or ‘con’, how does that make you think differently about them? Does it make you think differently at all?
What if those people are the truth and all of the information we are being fed is bullshit?
What if illegal immigrants are humans, hungry and poor, needing safety and sanctuary? Yes, like the old woman who does the floors at the office building you work at or visit. Like the gardener who lives in a trailer with 15 of his closest kin.
What if that conservative Christian, denim wearing family next door–the ones who bring you bread on Easter and cookies at Christmas–are simply kind people with beliefs a bit different than yours?
What if the woman who thinks guns need to be confiscated is your child’s kindergarten teacher and sends home Dixie cups with seedlings in them and pasted together popsicle stick art that has been carefully wrapped and taped to keep it safe until it is safely arrived at home?
What if the fellow who brings you a venison roast every year, who always has some wild blueberry jam to go with his delicious, shot last weekend, roast duck that’s always on the table at the company’s fall picnic, whose adorable, brown-eyed boy lisps just like your oldest child used to, also has an AK in his gun safe because he is afraid of what might happen to his family if he doesn’t?
There is no us. There is no them. We are one. Feel that. Sit with that for a moment. Love is the only way through the wall that hate has built. Love.
We. Are. One.
It’s International Women’s Day.
It’s easy to say thank you to women like Oprah and Maya Angelou, Malala Yousafzai and Vandana Shiva, Gloria Steinham and Audra Lord, because they have led the way in such public, mainstream ways. I am thankful for these women and so many more who, like them, have taken the stage to lead the way toward equality for all women.
Today, however, I want to say thank you to the Working Women, Stay at Home Moms, to the Coffee Shop Baristas, and the gals who work at the makeup counters and who work in gardens, to all of the women who live their lives without much recognition and very little in the way of thank yous. *Thank You*.
Thank you to the Magdalenes and Priestesses. Especially you, for changing the vibration of yourselves and through yourselves, the World. We are like the bees, carrying our hum and our nectar back to the hive, adding our vibration to the whole, adding our sweetness…every single one of us is changing the world in an intentional and important way.
For the Shield Maidens, all of the girls and young women who are looking at themselves in the mirror and who are able, at least sometimes, to see beyond the bullshit the world tells them to look for and to see who *they really are*, young women of brilliance, young women of importance, who have a message and a strength to bring to our world beyond the belittling than can get the best of them living the daily lives of girls and young women. I hold you and know that you remember who you are.
Today, ladies, we are to be recognized and lauded. All of us. Today we will not step out of the way on the sidewalk. Today we hold our ground with pride and direct eye-contact. Today we know that being a woman is something to be proud of. May this be every day.
*This is copied from a FB post I wrote. Someone mentioned how they had enjoyed it and I thought it best to hang onto it.
It takes a lot to get my dander up these days, but folks? It’s up.
Someone was telling me about a teenaged, sexually active woman who is young enough to still live at home with her parents. She has asked for birth control and it has been flatly denied. She also says she has been told that if she becomes pregnant, no matter how the pregnancy happens, that she will have the baby–her parents will force this. Even if she is raped. This is what her parents, who supposedly love this kid, have told her.
This all sounds so Medieval. I thought we were past the days when parents give their kids no guidance, no instruction, no ways of handing their budding sexuality other than to tell the boys, ‘go get it!’ and the girls, ‘keep your damned legs closed.’ Apparently we are not past that. I just live in a bubble.
Who this girl is, even whether or not she actually exists as anything (anyone!) more than an idea, doesn’t matter. What matters is that grown up people are still this stupid and they are causing dire harm to their daughters.
- Our world teaches girls that it is their job to please men. Don’t believe me? Try googling ‘how to please a man’, you’ll get plenty of hits. But there’s so much more to it than folks sharing sex tips online.
- Advertising is geared toward teaching women that looking good is important. Who are we looking good for? We might say we are trying to look good for ourselves but really? It’s bullshit. Women try to look good for other people, for approval, for recognition, to be noticed and lauded. Personally, when I dress for myself I wear sweatpants, a soft top, and probably a scrunchy with my hair balled up in it. Going out and dressing well for it is all about blending in, gaining approval, maybe garnering a compliment. In this particular instance, I’m not unusual.
- Girls are taught not to touch themselves, that their vulvas are gross, weird looking, smelly (scented douche! scented suppositories!) If they listen to what they’re told, they then never try touching themselves. Can you see where this is going? What does a woman who has never been allowed to explore her own sexuality alone know about her own body, needs, desires, when she’s intimate with a partner? Not much. She knows to look pretty; smell like chemical flowers; please the partner.
- There is, apparently, still a culture of denying access to birth control for young, sexually active women. THIS IS LIKE SETTING THEM UP TO BE TEEN MOTHERS. What the everloving fuck are these parents thinking of? No matter how hard you close your eyes, your daughter is still off in the woods humping her boyfriend. Maybe I should call it making love with her boyfriend? Actually that is probably what they feel they are doing. They are two young people, in love, doing what young people in love have been doing since, well, since *people*! And closing your eyes and stuffing your fingers in your ears and pretending she’s still your widdle baby pwincess might be fun for you but it’s bullshit and parents? Honestly, it’s time for YOU to grow up and help your daughter. Not by beating her, or calling her a slut, or threatening to shoot her boyfriend but by realizing Widdle Pwincess is a grown ass woman in a lot of ways now and she’s going to provide you with a grandchild real soon if you don’t get off the proverbial pot.
Now, that part is finished. If you’re a teen girl and looking for resources you can access without parental permission: ask your school nurse, if you feel safe doing so; if not, contact your city or county’s Pubic Heath Department; Planned Parenthood is also an option.
If you’re a teen girl who I know and you need help finding resources, feel free to reach out to me privately and I will give you any and all of the information I can find. If you’re afraid; if you just need someone to talk to; if you need a ride to the clinic; anything at all, reach out. If you’re threatening to harm yourself or someone else, I do have to let your parents know. If you want to be responsible about birth control, I do not.
I”m providing links here for locals and for anyone in the wider US.
Planned Parenthood’s main, national page with a searchable database of locations.
Family Planning Services
Family Planning services include health assessments, physical examinations, education, laboratory tests and birth control methods. Family Planning Clinics are by appointment only! Call (757) 382-8687 to make an appointment:
- Wednesday mornings
- Tuesday and Thursday afternoon
Depo-Provera and Family Planning Supplies (Birth Control) are available for pick-up:
- Monday Afternoons & Thursday Mornings by appointment only
Norfolk, Va Public Health (less user friendly that Chesapeake’s, but the info is there.)
Answer a few questions and Bedsider will show you resources near you.
Shield Maidens? When your friends need help with this stuff? SHIELD WALL!
Sage, copal, palo santo, and so many more things are beautiful tools to have in our lives. They smell good, the smoke can help to clear some energies, but better than that, they are excellent for anchoring, or holding, a vibration once a clearing has been done.
A Space Clearing, done with dowsing, intention, and from the place of neutral mind, or non-judgment, can definitely do wonders for a home, office, or other place of business. Once the clearing is completed, using smudge weekly, or even daily, can help you to keep the space clear and clean.
If you’re curious about the Illuminated Priestess Path but want more information before contacting me, please enjoy this Free online offering! The Illuminated Priestess Path Free Preview can be found by clicking here. It should only take you a couple of hours to complete.
The Preview includes information–text and a short video– on each of the Seven Themes, a short, opening meditation and a closing meditation that will, I hope, fully activate your Illuminated Priestess archetype.
Obviously this is only an amuse bouche for the actual process but it will definitely give a taste of who I am, what my personality might be like and how the process is put together.
If you are a woman who is doing her spiritual work, who is ready to move into your own powerful, Divine Feminine Presence in the New Earth, then this process is for you. If you aren’t ready to change, if you would prefer to check out rather than to check in, this is not for you.
My next circle begins on January 12th, 2018 at Four Oaks Sanctuary in Chesapeake, VA.
Blessings on You, ~Be~
Sending Prayers into the Galaxy using flame and smoke
On New Year’s Day, on day 1 day of 365 gifts of time and new energy, we have an opportunity to set intention and to create openings for this energy to flow through. On New Year’s Day, or very soon after, I love set my intentions for what I’d like to call in during this year.
Much of this ceremony replicates the Burning Bowl Ceremony posted just one day ago and useful on New Year’s Eve, or on the Full Moon.
There is power in burning our intentions, sending those out with the smoke, but there is also power in ‘burying’ them in a box, bowl or basket to be reviewed the following December 31st. Do what your heart tells you to.
If you are choosing to ‘bury’ your intentions, find a container that can hold the 13 for this year, and which you can keep as a sacred object, using it only for this purpose, for one year.
If you are choosing a burning bowl ceremony, or fire ceremony, read the following section.
What You Will Need for a Fire Ceremony:
>A flame proof dish. Things that work well are: a cast iron sauce pan, cast iron, deep frying pan or cast iron dutch oven; a pyrex bowl; a metal bowl; a stone or concrete bowl. Please be sure that whatever you’re using as your burning bowl is safe for the oven and stove top, unless it is specifically designed to be a burning bowl. We don’t want the container to crack and spill flame all over your living room floor.
If you have a fireplace, you might consider using that rather than a bowl for your ceremony. If you are doing your ceremony outside, you may not need a bowl. A firepit–either in the ground or a free standing one–both work beautifully. In this case (using a fireplace or fire pit, rather than using a bowl) you will want to lay your fire before beginning the ceremony and possibly light it. This is up to you. You may also choose to light your fire during the ceremony and to spend more time flame gazing and awaiting the proper moment to add your intentions to the flames.
If you’re doing your ceremony in a firepit, or fireplace, please skip down this list to the bottom, to the line beginning with, ‘Your intentions…’
>Epsom salts, enough to cover the bottom of your bowl by at least 1/2″.
>Rubbing alcohol (isopropyl) or grain alcohol.
Rubbing alcohol is about $1 per bottle at your local drug or dollar store and that bottle will last for many, many burning bowl ceremonies.
>A stick lighter or long matches.
>A folded towel or flat potholder to place beneath the bowl to protect any surface from heat damage.
What You Will Need For the Intentions and Other Parts of Ceremony:
>Your intentions written on paper. It’s great if you have handmade paper or paper you’ve charged under a full moon. But notebook paper or a piece of a brown paper bag, are perfect. Please only use things that burn cleanly, for your own safety.
>Smudge such as sage, sweetgrass or charcoals and resins, or incense. If you have problems with smoke, or prefer not use it, you can use a spray bottle of water. You might add a pinch of sea salt, flower essences, homeopathic remedies, or essential oils (or all of these!) to the spray bottle. You could also just use a small bowl and sprinkle or flick the water with your fingers.
>A dish or shell to burn the smudge in, if needed.
Writing Your Intention:
Be as clear as you possibly can and as concise as you possibly can. Muddy intentions bring muddy results.
Shorter is better.
Spend time with this. Consider all of the things you would love to manifest in the coming year, if you’re doing this on New Year’s Day. One year. Today the time frame is very specific. If you’re doing this on the New Moon, choose your time frame. A month, year, longer? If you’re doing a fire ceremony or burning bowl, it’s okay if you want to photograph or make a copy of your intentions to look back on later.
Be specific. I’d like a new job is not as focused as I will be loving my job as a flight attendant for Southwest airlines.
Put your materials together in your ceremonial space.
If you have an altar for the season, or a working ceremonial altar, this would be the perfect spot to place your bowl for the ceremony. If not, find somewhere quiet and safe, where the flames won’t be able to reach anything flammable–the center of a room, on a kitchen table, or out of doors in a safe location.
Once you have your space prepared, it is time to open the ceremony.
Light your smudge and waft it over your body from the top of your head to the bottoms of your feet, if possible. As you smudge, focus on any areas where you feel like you’re holding tension, or an energetic feeling of heaviness or stickiness, anywhere in your body that tends to hold illness or where you feel called to spend more time clearing and upgrading your vibration. This is the beginning of the releasing ceremony. Allow yourself to be in that energy.
Next, you will call the directions. The intention here is to create sacred space and to surround yourself with beneficial energy. There are so many ways of doing this and I can’t list them all here, but know that you have at your disposal the options of calling in: angels; your ancestors; goddesses and gods, including those from all traditional and mainstream religions; animal totems; light workers; guides; the devas; fairies; colors; light; happiness; the winds…whatever energies you are called to work with. In each direction I ask specifically for only energies that are absolutely beneficial and who come to ceremony with the greatest and highest good.
This is your ceremony, please edit the script to accommodate your needs, preferences and beliefs. This is a place where you can be in your own power without the judgment of anyone.
Facing East, “I call on the Spirits of Air, the flying ones, bald eagle, hawk and the song birds; the clarity of conscious of thought, and the winds that blow away the stuck energies and the cobwebs in my mind. I also call on the energies of the goddess Arianrhod, Lady of the Silver Wheel, Celtic goddess of Air, full moons, time, karma and retribution. I ask that all who heed this call come with pure and positive energy for me/us and for this ceremony. I call on my ancestors and the spirits of the land, both those who are land spirits and those who are spirits who have lived on and who continue to protect and guard this land. I call on the spirit of the East Wind to bring clarity and to clear all that no longer serves. Blessed Be.”
Facing South: “I call on the Spirits of Fire, the healthy predators and tricksters who teach us life’s lessons with humor and fun. I call on the energies of Coyote and Wolf. I call in the cleansing, violet flame of St Germain, and the power of creative thought, of the generative mind, for while fire cleanses and burns away things, it is also the flame of creativity, the spark of passion, and the spark of life within the seed, that from which things grow. I call on Brigid, the Celtic goddess of Fire, and of poetry and inspiration, midwifery and healing. She of the Eternal Flame. I ask that all who heed this call come with pure and positive energy for me/us and for this ceremony. I call on my ancestors and the spirits of the land, both those who are land spirits and those who are spirits who have lived on and who continue to protect and guard this land. I call on the spirit of the South Wind to bring energy and passion. Blessed Be.”
Facing West: “I call on the Spirits of Water, the slick, cool creatures who live in this element of mystery, the otter, dolphin and whale, the muskrats and frogs. I call in the flow and power of water, the ability to stay the course, to wear down obstacles with patience or to move around them with ease. I call in our ability to ‘go with the flow’ and also to ‘be in the flow’. I call on the mermaids and mermen who are able to move between the Worlds and the Celtic goddess Sulis, who is known to reside in the hot springs at Bath, England. I also call on the Lady of the Lake. Water is mystery, the Lady of the Lake lives in the mystery, a life beyond a veil. I ask that all who heed this call come with pure and positive energy for me/us and for this ceremony. I call on my ancestors and the spirits of the land, both those who are land spirits and those who are spirits who have lived on and who continue to protect and guard this land. I call on the spirit of the West Wind to bring purity, to wash us clean. Blessed Be.”
Facing North: “I call on the Spirits of Earth, the four-leggeds, horse, bear, the white tailed deer, and the White Buffalo; I call on the grounding and nourishment provided by Earth which holds us and feeds us and provides us with all that we need to sustain physical life; I call on the Celtic goddess Danu, the mother of all Irish people and of the Tuatha de Dannan, who is the producer of life, Earth Mother, goddess-healer of the land. I also call on the spirit of Gaia, the Earth herself and on White Buffalo Calf Woman, who brought the 7 Sacred Rituals to the Lakota people. I ask that all who heed this call come with pure and positive energy for me/us and for this ceremony. I call on my ancestors and the spirits of the land, both those who are land spirits and those who are spirits who have lived on and who continue to protect and guard this land. I call on the spirit of the North Wind to bring nourishment and growth. Blessed Be.”
Facing the Center or East: “I call on the Spirits of Center, the as above, so below; as within, so without, mysteries. I call on our connection through all of the dimensions, honoring the 9 dimensions I am aware of, from the iron core crystal at Earth’s center, to the 9th dimension and the great sun at Galactic Center. I call in Unity Consciousness and the Sacred Marriage, the heiros gamos. I call on the Spirit of the Divine Sophia, the creatrix of all that is. I ask that all who heed this call come with pure and positive energy for me/us and for this ceremony. I call on my ancestors and the spirits of the land, both those who are land spirits and those who are spirits who have lived on and who continue to protect and guard this land. I call on the spirits of the Spiral Winds to bring connection as we move higher on our path. Blessed Be.”
You have now created Sacred Space. You are in ceremony. Breathe quietly for a few breaths and feel the energy. Know that what you do is Sacred Work.
How to make the bowl burn: Pour enough Epsom Salts into the bowl to cover the bottom by at least 1/2″ and then add enough alcohol to dampen the salt. Be careful with the alcohol as it is highly flammable and too much will be dangerous.
Using your stick lighter or long, wooden match, light the alcohol ablaze.
If you’re using a wood fire, proceed with lighting or blaze gazing, if you lit the fire beforehand.
Once you’ve taken a moment to see the blaze, add your intentions to the bowl and say a prayer (or whatever term you use for sacred words) of releasing. Here is a suggestion: Mother/Father/Divine, As my intentions are released into the purifying flame, please clear me of all that no longer serves me, so that I vibrate at the highest frequency of love, and am rooted into my true spiritual power. Please seal all voids, cracks and openings with the golden substance of Divine Love. I ask that you open my heart to the vibration of Cosmic Unity-Consciousness. So I speak and so it is. <looking into the flames> I release you. I release you. I release you. Amen. Amen. Amen.
Once your flames have died, or your intentions have burned completely to ash, and you feel complete with the releasing ceremony, it is time to thank and release the directions and guardian spirits who you called in. I like to do this in reverse order, beginning in the center and moving from North, to West, to South, and finally, to the East, saying words such as: Thank you Spirits of the —– for being with me/us in ceremony today and offering your strength, blessings and power. I honor and thank you for your presence here today. Go if you must, stay if you will, Blessed Be. And repeating something like that in each direction until finishing in the East.
Now clean out your bowl, offering the salt to the Earth if you can, and blessing it as you place it into the dustbin, if you cannot offer it to the Earth.
This ceremony is also a good one to use each month on the New Moon.
I hope that you are blessed by this ceremony and that you find yourself more clean, clear and current. ~Blessings on you. Be~